I was disappointed with the Synod on the Family. I believe the Catholic Church had the best intentions but that it missed great opportunities to strengthen marriage and families, prevent divorce, and clarify misunderstandings. I doubt many truly know what being divorced is or who you are tempted to become when divorce is thrust at you. I doubt many can understand, although they will think they do, what it does to be unloved by the person who promised forever. I doubt many realize it truly takes only one to divorce and that there is often truly an innocent spouse, not innocent as in sinless, but innocent in the tearing apart of marital bonds and the amputation of family members.
As a suddenly abandoned, divorced, annulled, single mom of five boys I know firsthand the hardships and burdens facing one forced into an unwanted divorce. I know the agony of waving good-bye to your children half your weekends. I know the gut wrenching wrongness of pretending “this is for the best” while your sobbing toddler reaches for you as he’s pulled from your arms and placed in his father’s car to spend the weekend with this virtual stranger and the woman he lives with. I know the confusion that comes from sitting home alone when communication is withheld by the absentee parent ensuring that you will know nothing of your children’s wellbeing for the next 48 hours. I know the fear that your children will repeat their father’s mistakes, hurt those they should care the most for, and possibly burn in hell.Continue Reading