When your marriage fails, it is easy to look at the other person and lay all the blame at his feet, but this does nothing to benefit you. While ending a marriage is against God’s wishes, it is God’s will that you learn from your mistakes and become a better person because of that.
No one is blameless in any relationship. It is part of what makes us human. We were all born into sin and need to turn to God to protect us from our own failings. How did you do this in your past relationship?
Ask yourself these questions:
- Did I put my spouse first?
- What did I do to make him feel important?
- What did I do to grow myself in this relationship?
- What did I do to expand our relationship and try new things?
- Did I depend too much on my spouse?
- Did I make my spouse a false idol?
There are three categories to these questions, all have equal importance: What should you have done to show the other person how important he is, what should you have done to honor the person God made you to be, and how might you have put too much pressure on your spouse-no one can be everything to another person. Only God can fill those shoes!
While you may not be able to fix these issues in your marriage or past relationship, you can examine your thoughts, actions, and words and work to do better in future relationships.
Learn and grow from your mistakes.