Ultimate Blog Party Post

Single Mom and Boys - Five of Them!

My family.

So this afternoon my friend from Pure Sugar told me about the Ultimate Blog Party. I’m still a bit confused about what exactly the Ultimate Blog Party is all about and what I’m supposed to do to be part of it.

I kinda feel like I’m back at an 8th grade dance, hanging out in the shadows, praying someone asks me to dance but hoping no one will see me, and pleading with God to not let me step on any toes IF I am actually called onto the dance floor.

I’m already signed up for the April A to Z Challenge and, as a single mom of five busy boys, time is not something I have a lot of so I was a bit wary of doing the Ultimate Blog Party, but it sounded interesting, and I’m a sucker for getting involved in things, so I couldn’t resist for long!

I was looking over one of the Linky Lists and noticed one blog with a two links. I had to question,

Hmmm… why does that blog have two links?

It was just a passing thought, and I soon found myself filling out my Linky Tool and hitting the send button without the link to this post. Maybe I figured out why that other site had two links listed.

Sometimes God answers questions pretty quickly.

Now if only He’d get back to me on the meaning of life thing…

Oh the embarrassment of being the newbie!

But God didn’t make us to hang out in the shadows, so here I am, hopefully with a working link (and an apology for the 1st link) this time!

I am a single mom of five boys. The last little guy was a surprise pregnancy with complications, and my husband, whom I adored for 17 years, left suddenly in the 5th month. It was Mother’s Day 2009; he left a week later and began divorce proceedings not long after. 

Four Older Brothers Holding Baby Kaleb

What amazing joy and love these boys add to my life!

My boys and I would lose our home in foreclosure and go up against a court system still favoring the monied spouse. We would deal with abandonment and fear and agony and confusion like I never knew could exist – all caused by a man I no longer recognized.

I’m pretty sure that during that time my boys and I caught a glimpse of hell; it’s not someplace I ever want anyone to be again. There is so much pain in this world. So many of people suffering behind closed doors.

But there is so much goodness too!

And I hope to share God’s Love, to bring power and reasons to smile to hurting lives.

I am sorry for some of man’s choices (and my own!) but I am not defeated. In many ways, I have grown stronger in my faith, in my self-confidence, in my awe of what God can do when I get out of His way.

This is what I blog about.

Anyway, here I am and now that I’ve joined, I’m all in and looking forward to whatever this party turns out to be!

God Bless…

11 Comments

  1. Tara Jean Larkin on April 15, 2014 at 1:52 pm

    I am a single mom of three boys I thought I had I bad. God bless you and your posts very uplifting.



    • Strahlen on April 15, 2014 at 11:14 pm

      Thanks for stopping by, Tara. Being a single mom is certainly not easy! I’m sure you have some great insight. Let me know if you ever want to contribute. As far as having 5, you know… by the time you have three, you just throw a few more in 😉
      Keep praying, strengthen your faith, and teach your boys to do the same. You’re all in my prayers tonight. God Bless…



      • Tara Jean Larkin on April 16, 2014 at 9:32 am

        I would love to contribute if you have e-mail I can share my story 🙂



        • Strahlen on April 16, 2014 at 3:26 pm

          Great Tara, I received your email address and will send you a message with details later this evening. Thanks. I’m glad to hear from you. 🙂



  2. Lizzie Lau on April 13, 2014 at 12:11 pm

    I’m still following up on #UBP14 posts. It took up a whole lot more time than I anticipated, but has been so worth it! I finally feel like blogging is more about having conversations and building community. I’m glad you joined the party! I’m a single mom too, and I count among my blessings that my daughter doesn’t remember her father ever living with us, so she doesn’t feel that loss.



    • Strahlen on April 13, 2014 at 2:07 pm

      Thanks Lizzie! I think I’ll be going through UBP14 for the rest of the year before I meet everyone – seriously! I’ve visited your site a few times and you have some great stuff there. Is your daughter’s father still in her life? How do you manage visitation etc? We are still struggling with control issues etc here. I plan to blog more about that when the April A-Z Challenge is over and would love any advice you’ve got! Thanks. 🙂



  3. Kerry on April 10, 2014 at 2:51 pm

    Stopping by from UBP…thanks for being so honest about your story. I have a friend who raises 4 boys as a single mom. I admire all she does. Let me know if I can help you in any way.



    • Strahlen on April 10, 2014 at 5:27 pm

      Thank you, Kerry. Great timing too. I’ve always wanted to home school my boys, but my husband wouldn’t let me. I’ve really been considering it for my soon to be 6th grader and kindergartener. I can’t imagine I’d have time, but I’ll check your site for ideas. Tell your friend to hang in there. I’d love to talk to her. I’m hoping to put a book together of stories like ours. 🙂



  4. Lynn on April 8, 2014 at 2:40 pm

    what a wonderful testimony. I know the feelings of being a single mom and the struggles it entails and the nightmares that come out of the judicial system. The best part of all of it was my faith. Without it, I don’t know how I would of gotten through. I did find the love of my life and we have now been married 16 years with two more children. I look forward to reading more of your story here on your blog. I’ve come by from the UBP2014…



    • Strahlen on April 9, 2014 at 2:00 pm

      Lynn, thank you so much for your kind words and for letting me know your story has a happy ending! I know all believers have a happy ending, but sometimes it’s good to get that encouragement here on earth too. You hit the nail on the head when you said your faith is the best thing to have come out of it. I thought I had faith before, but it has increased so far beyond what I could have imagined! It’s scary to me to see how people are relying on the government now and how the government is removing God. The judicial system was actually more harmful than helpful in some ways. What will people in our situations do without God? Thanks for sharing. I’ll check out your blog too. God bless you and your family. 🙂



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