Hungering in A Cold Darkness & My Marian Consecration

Hunger, Cold Darkness, Marian Consecration - gray background, black wordsAn inspirational Christian friend once told me the prayer God always answers positively is her request to want to know Him more, to be made more hungry for Him. Her words stuck with me and describe what I have been experiencing the last several weeks.

I hunger.

With an intensity that is almost indescribable,

I hunger.

I have grown in my understanding of trust in, and love for the Lord in ways I didn’t know were possible before (Before now always means before my husband left…). I am amazed by how far I’ve come and by the Peace and Joy  in my life today. Make no mistake, this is no Peace and Joy  from my own power, but a Peace and Joy  that surpasses human understanding or will. It is a Peace and Joy that comes from submission. It is a Peace and Joy  that comes even in cold dark moments.

That last part is key to understanding faith. Faith doesn’t expel cold, dark moments, even intensely cold dark moments or those that last a very long time.

In my cold and darkness, I find Joy and Peace, yet still, I hunger.

I hunger to know more of God, to grow closer to Him, to receive and give more of His Love and Mercy, more of His forgiveness and welcome, more of Him. I hunger for relationship with faithful brothers and sisters in Christ, those who see beauty in this troubled world and who want to better glorify God for His creation and for placing us in the middle of it. I hunger for a spiritual advisor who will push me farther than I think I can go and asks questions that rock my status quo and make me reach out of myself so I am less of me and more of my Savior.

I hunger to Love and be Loved, to hold an be held, to trust and be trustworthy.

My Marian Consecration

It is this hunger that made me seek Marian Consecration at a neighboring parish. I hungered to know more of my Lord, My Savior, and I figured who better to show me the way than a group of faithful Catholic women meeting to learn about Mary, the Mother of Jesus Christ?

The consecration seemed like a nice thing to do.

Before I get too deeply into this, let me explain again as Catholics already explained countless times for centuries, we do not and never will Worship Mary as God. She is fully human and not God in any way, shape, or form.

Phew, got that established! Onward…

Mary was someone I hadn’t thought much of growing up. I don’t remember studying her in CCD. We had no devotion to her in my home. I said the Rosary occasionally as a repetitive set of prayers, a chore I did because my conscience nagged at me. I never asked whether that nagging was my own conscience, the Holy Spirit’s prompting, or a Mother’s exasperated plea. I never thought of my saying the Rosary once in a blue moon as a hunger in me.

It wasn’t until after my husband left that I began exploring other Christian churches and found that, although I loved much of what they did, there was a completeness they lacked somehow. Mary was a part of that. I hungered for her in a way that made no sense since I didn’t know her. Hungering for Mary was like hungering for a nourishing food I’d never tried because I wasn’t sure it provided anything I wasn’t getting elsewhere. Mary was a food I wasn’t even sure it existed as anything more than a long ago tree dropping an important fruit. I’d take her fruit, but who would eat the tree?

I faced additional pains hungering for her but knowing her purity was in such contrast to decades of my impurity. I hungered but couldn’t bring myself to meet her eye to eye.

Yet, still I hungered.

I began saying the Scriptural Rosary and saw how reflecting on Jesus’ life through a Scriptural verse represented by each bead brought me closer to Jesus. I learned Saint Dominic said the Rosary was like giving Mary a bouquet of prayers. I thought of how beautiful such a gift from my own children would be! I imagined myself shyly presenting my bouquet to the Blessed Mother and her graciously accepting my pitifully withered offering with her gentle smile.

I realized that, because Jesus is our brother and Mary is His mother, she is our mother too. I realized that Jesus would want us to honor the 4th Commandment Honor our Mother and Father, especially when it came to His own mother. I thought of how happy He must be when we love the woman He Loves, the woman who gave Him life in man’s form, the woman who gave her fiat, her “yes,” to God, the woman who took the Holy Spirit within her to live next to her heart.

I was prepared to honor and even love Mary, Mother of God, daughter of my Father, and wife of the Holy Spirit. If the consecration to Jesus through Mary was a way to do that and grow closer to the Trinity well that was fine with me!

I wasn’t prepared for Marian consecration to present a hunger that left me isolated for the next five weeks…

*Please read through my last post on Marian Consecration! Come back each day or, if you don’t have much time, please read the last three posts!

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  6. Roxane B. Salonen on February 12, 2017 at 8:49 pm

    I just took a class, first of three parts, this afternoon by a priest here who is very close to Mary, and he ended with this: “Mary’s not the problem. She’s the solution. The only thing she’s up to is promoting her son. That’s it. The more you honor Mary, the more you honor Jesus.” He also said the more you deny Mary, the more you deny Christ, which is fairly stunning, but also true. Wow. I, too, have grown in my love of Our Blessed Mother, and it has only brought blessed and an expanded understand of the richness of our faith! 🙂



    • Strahlen on February 14, 2017 at 4:32 pm

      Oh my gosh Roxane! This consecration was SOOOOO hard for me! I’ll explain more in my next two posts, but I really struggled. Your priest’s words are key to holding on! I’ve always admired your devotion to the Blessed Mother. Now I’m beginning to understand (and join) it too. 🙂



  7. Manny on February 12, 2017 at 8:30 pm

    But what does it mean to be consecrated to Mary? And what will you be obligated to do? I’ve heard of this but know so little about it.



    • Strahlen on February 14, 2017 at 4:30 pm

      Hi Manny! I’ve been meaning to get in touch with you! I saw our friend Father Veras at the New York Encounter a while ago! It was such a nice surprise to see him as one of the speakers! I have a picture I told him I’d send. I haven’t forgotten, but I have been weighed down with other things (This post shows a little of that – sorry!)

      Anyway…I will write more of the Marian Consecration that I went through. It should publish tomorrow. It wasn’t easy for me to consecrate myself for a few reasons I’ll explain in more depth later. I didn’t want to post that article today because it’s such a dark piece and Valentine’s Day should be about Love! I’d also ask that anyone who reads tomorrow’s piece reads the follow up too. You should not leave it with just one side of the issue Read to the conclusion!

      I also knew very little about Marian Consecration. I still feel like there is SO much to know. In a nutshell, we spent 33 days studying and pondering on the writings and insight of saints Louis DeMontfort, Maximilian Kolbe, Saint Teresa of Calcutta, and Saint Pope John Paul II. Each had a way of looking at Mary and how loving her brings us closer to God and his desire for us to love better.

      I’ll post more tomorrow, but for now, check out total TotalConsecration.NewEvangelizers.com and go to the “Consecration Explained” tab. It’s very similar to what we did and gives a really good explanation.



      • Manny on February 18, 2017 at 9:37 pm

        Hi Strahlen. Thanks for answering. That’s great you saw Fr. Veras. He is scheduled to come back to my parish (St. Rita’s, where I knew him) for a Lenten talk one Friday next month. So I’ll get to see him then. And I usually participate on the Way of the Cross procession over the Brooklyn Bridge which he coordinates, so I may have a chance to speak with him there.

        Yes, you’ve written quite a bit on Marian Consecration. I’ll read more. I’m currently exploring joining the Lay Dominicans, which is where my natural charism seems to be. God bless.



        • Strahlen on February 21, 2017 at 8:37 pm

          Hi again Manny! I remember you talking about the Way of the Cross and how interested I was in it last year. Depending on the day and time, I might be like to get down there to participate unless it’s for parishioners only. I’d have to check my schedule and whether I have the kids or not and I’m also not a city person at all(I don’t know that I’ve ever been to Brooklyn (LOL)), but I’d love to check it out if possible. If you think of it and could send me details or a link and you don’t mind, I might just show up! 🙂

          Funny about the lay Dominicans. I’ve been thinking I need to look into them too!



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